First Sign to Decline...

I have been noticing that my friends are being asked over to guys apartments to "hang out" instead of on an actual date. When you are just getting to know a guy and he invites you over, that is not a date... I repeat, not a date. Instead this is a first sign to decline. A first date is the typical going out for lunch/dinner or to the movies... not 'let's hang out on my couch and watch tv.' Inviting you to go to a party he is going to, however, is a first step to him testing whether or not you are interested, but again is not a date. 

Any woman should expect more from a man then a hang out session at his place. He has friends he can hang out with, not his potential girlfriend. The girls I have talked to feel frustrated that men are considering that a date and personally, I would too. Now more than ever a formal date is a romantic notion, and thoughtful as well. This says not only a lot about how a guy feels about you, but how he intends to treat you. When a man puts effort towards courting you he will most likely do the same for the future relationship. Also, by inviting you over to his place it should cause you to question his intentions and how he views you.

Now I understand that some men do not have the finances to afford a 5 star restaurant, but they will make the effort if they are a respectable guy. If they can spend money on the weekend to go out with 'the boys' then they can use that money to take you out to dinner/lunch instead. Even after the first date they still should be taking you out, no exceptions. If they are broke they can make sandwiches they normally would eat for lunch and have a picnic in the park with you or take you to lunch instead of dinner to save a few bucks.

A man takes you out on a date, a boy invites you over to hang out at his place. Just saying...

"As long as you know men are like children, you know everything!"
— Coco Chanel