Do You Give Up the Stuff after the Break Up?

Seems as though after couples break up they are still asking the question, do I give back some of the things I was given during the relationship? The answer is, a gift is a gift and should not be given back. Now the blanket, movie or iPod you were using that belonged to your boyfriend/girlfriend needs to be returned to them. This is not only the proper way to handle the situation, but also leaves a good lasting impression because we all know we want our past romances to think of us as 'the one who got away.'

Now it is not just that simple, is it? Some break ups are more complicated than others. Let's say, worst scenario, you are dealing with a cheater. First instinct is to burn all their things that you have in your possession, which is understandable. This action, however, is not the way to go. Have a friend drop it off at their place, and the sooner the better. The faster you get the items off your hands and back to theirs illustrates, not only your maturity, but also that you do not need that person in your life. Even if you are falling apart and crying yourself to sleep at night with their over-sized high school t-shirt that exudes their cologne, let it go. This is necessary to move on and also takes away any physical link and reminders of your past relationship.

I am sure you all would agree, but just to formally state again, never return gifts that you received during the relationship. It is not needed nor necessary to give back a present once the relationship ends. Plus, who would want to return that gorgeous bracelet or watch that your ex gave you? If it has such a strong sentimental value then pawn it and you will walk away from the relationship with some extra cash.

“I never hated a man enough to give him his diamonds back.”
― Zsa Zsa Gabor